Wednesday, January 18, 2006
The Lambs
Sometimes I have a hard time letting people be who they are. Let's take my wife for example. I have known from the day I met Joy that she does NOT like scary movies. The first movie we ever saw with a group of friends was Signs, and she barely made it through. Over the time I've known her, I've tried to get her to watch some movies here and there (she still won't see any Lord of the Rings movies), and sometimes she does after I don't take her protesting seriously. So this weekend Joy and I were hosting some guests (yeah Ginna, Emma, Eric, and Andrew!) and we wanted to watch Silence of the Lambs. Now, I love this movie. It's freaky and smart and all sorts of things that make it good. And yes, at the end, I get tensed up every time. Well, needless to say, Joy absolutely did not want to watch the movie. But eventually I convinced her and we all sat down to watch. She was doing really well for the first half of the film, and then she just didn't want to see any more, so she went to the bedroom. As I was thinking about it later, I realized that I knew in advance that Joy wouldn't like this movie, that she didn't want to watch it, yet it was because of my constant persisting that she eventually gave in. I wonder if I'll ever learn and just be content in letting her not like scary movies and not try to get her to watch them or tease her because she doesn't like the same kind of movies as I do. It may seem like a small thing, but I have a feeling a lot of this marriage thing will come down to learning what it means for me to let her be herself and not what I want her to be in all these small areas of life. Either way, it's still a really great movie. And no, the lambs haven't stopped screaming yet.
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Welcome back to blogland! How fun to see some postings from you, my friend! BTW, i loved loved loved your thank you notes ~ SO creative! Debbie brought hers to our care group and showed the gang...along with every doggone picture we took :)
Well, besides saying hello, i wanted to say three cheers for Joy. I too am a non-scary-movie girl. I'd have joined her for some card game in the other room for sure.
It's hard letting people be all the way where they're at sometimes, isn't it? Especially if where they're at is so different from where we're at. But it comes with time....and with great love :)
Good to hear from you friend!
Hey Stephen! I just realized that you had a blog. Maybe the fam isn't invited! :) Yes, a lot of marriage is about being selfless even in the little things! So many times little things seem so important--especially if you're stubborn, like me! No, I don't enjoy those scary movies either, but I'm sure that you and Joy will find a balance.
Hey Stephen! I just realized that you had a blog. Maybe the fam isn't invited! :) Yes, a lot of marriage is about being selfless even in the little things! So many times little things seem so important--especially if you're stubborn, like me! No, I don't enjoy those scary movies either, but I'm sure that you and Joy will find a balance. d Joy will find a balance.
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